Who Gives a Quack?

Friday, December 20, 2013

I'm sure you're as tired of the Duck Dynasty controversy as I am. I was over the bearded clan before this homosexuality tirade even began. I mean, does the world really need koozies and pajama bottoms and kitchen towels with their redneck faces on them? (Please say no.) But here's one more opinion for whatever it's worth...

I don't watch the reality show. Mostly because I don't have cable; I don't like beards; and I find the whole idea of duck calls really weird. I have nothing against the family. I hear they're swell. But Phil's comments to GQ? Not so swell.

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The second something like this happens, Facebook explodes like my credit card on Black Friday. I find myself rolling my eyes over every "I'm with Phil" or "AMEN, Phil!" post that I see. We Christians love having a mascot. A troop rallier. We band behind anyone in the public eye brave enough to proclaim our "Christian morals" for all the world to hear. Sometimes, that's exceptionally admirable. Other times, and unfortunately much more often, it's completely counter productive. In their attempts to be the next Christian spokesperson, these public figures often forget who those comments affect and blindly fall into a downward spiral while their Christian brothers cry "Martyr! Saint! Media victim!"

I'm not arguing with his beliefs or his right to express them--though it should shock no one that he's anti-gay, or that A&E wants nothing to do with seemingly bad publicity. My beef with Phil is the way he chose to express his views. Boiling down an issue as prevalent and personal as homosexuality to the simple question of, "Uh, where should I stick my penis?" isn't compassionate. It doesn't relay to anyone that you actually give a quack about their lives and struggles. It's actually incredibly demeaning and hurtful. As a redneck man who quacks for a living, I'd expect no less. As a Christian, I expect much more.

Think about it. How were his words hopeful? How were they respectful of his fellow man? Even more importantly, how were they like Jesus? I can pretty much guarantee you that his offensive comments to Magary brought no one to Christ. No one's mind was changed. No homosexual male thought, "Man, I really should like vaginas. That's what real men like Phil prefer." The people who are rallying behind Phil and his Dynasty already agree with his views, and the people who aren't so gung-ho were left hurt and understandably insulted.

We're all really good at speaking the truth.
We're all just really bad at speaking the truth in love, the actual command.

It's easy for Christian heterosexuals to wag our self-righteous fingers. We belittle. We disrespect. We don't understand. It's easy for us to think, "Just get over it! Choose a different life, or you're gonna burn. The Bible says so." We (like Phil) say things like, "Hey it's not my place to judge" only after we have clearly done so. We condemned the ever lovin' mess out of you, made you feel like absolute crap, tore you to bits for the world to hear, and somehow in our tiny brains... that was sharing the gospel.

In our attempts to love and share Jesus with our fellow sinners, this doesn't mean we waterdown. Or avoid. Or shrug our shoulders in apathy. The truth needs to be heard, and we need to share the gospel as Christ commanded. But friends, slapping offensive statements onto an evangelistic agenda is not love. It's not God glorifying. And it certainly is NOT the gospel. Heck, it's not even attractive. I mean, why would anyone want to be a Christian when our new troop rallier can't even intelligently speak about these issues in a respectful, compassionate way? What happened to hate the sin, love the sinner? What happened to treating people with a shred of decency even if you completely disagree with their lifestyle?

If Phil wants a support rally, he's got one. If he wants a band of followers to wave their Christian flags and march into "battle," he's got that too. But if he wants to be a fisher of men, if he wants to share Christ with "homosexuals, drunks, and terrorists" (as he put it), he (like the rest of us) needs to put love back into the gospel equation.

Otherwise our words will be about as fruitful for the kingdom as those annoying duck calls.

25 comments:

Brianna said...

Oh. My. Goodness. I agree with this 100%! Seriously! Although my husband is addicted to this show and I've seen a few episodes, the love in his interview is obviously absent. And the Facebook thing really is annoying - we get it! But this post just resonates with me ... thank you so much for sharing today! :)

Miranda said...

Jena, you always find a way to strip things down and get to the importance of faith and I LOVE that so much. I feel like it was very similar to the whole situation a few months ago where people were boycotting/supporting Chick Fil A. The point is being missed! Thank you for not being afraid to come forward with this type of honesty.

Have a great weekend! :)

Ashley Wright said...

Yes! Thank you Jena! I've been getting frustrated with all my friends posting the "stand with Phil" "save Phil" things too! I think they're just rationalizing the vulgar way he expressed himself because the agree with his position on homosexuality and that's not okay. I too believe marriage should be between a man and a woman, but there is a much kinder way to express that belief! You write so eloquently! Thank you for putting my thoughts into words!

Kaity said...

If I could articulate this situation as eloquently as you just did, I imagine our reflections would be very similar. Yes! To all of the above- this is one of the best posts I've seen in response to this obnoxious public controversy.

A Thousand Words said...

100% agree!

A Thousand Words said...

100% agree!

A Thousand Words said...

100% agree!

Sarah said...

But if I don't listen to him, how will I know where to stick my penis?

I hope nobody Googles my name and this comment comes up.

Courtney said...

I have not seen a single viewpoint on this debate as spot-on as this blog!

Ashtinasellers said...

Loved this post! I'm so tired of hearing and seeing all of the posts everywhere. This should be shared! Great viewpoints!

Helene in Between said...

what a profound blog post. totally agree with you. we look down and belittle other before looking at ourselves.

Flannery said...

Truly thoughtful and eloquently put. Thank you.

Cara Howard said...

What you said just hit me HARD square on my heart. "We're all really good at speaking truth. We're just not at all good at speaking truth in love, the actual command." Gonna be carrying this around for a while. THANK YOU!

Ashley said...

I absolutely agree with you. There's a right way (and a wrong way) to say everything, and people need to be respectful to everyone!

Amanda said...

I read the interview, and I definitely thought his comments were offensive. Of course, it is annoying that he gets asked a question like that in the first place, but I guess that's media these days. I was excited to see you wrote something on this, and I was interested to hear your take. Great post.

Amanda - Voyage of the MeeMee said...

I myself am not religious and yet I still think you hit the nail on the head here. There is nothing wrong with expressing your opinions, but, no one has the right to use their opinions to make other people feel like garbage. I think that people use the amendments, etc as an excuse for being jerks, and that's just not okay, regardless of whatever someone's beliefs may be.

Allison said...

Very well written girl. Preach it! I totally agree with you. The truth definitely needs to be told, but always in love.

Kailagh said...

Don't you think it is a little hypocritical to say "As a redneck who quacks for a living, I'd expect no less. As a Christian, I expect more."? It is important to remember that much of his interview is not being talked about. How he doesn't preach hate, how he still "loves th neighbor" no matter what they are. He was talking about ideas that the Bible preaches. What the Bible has taught this very religious family.

This show is more than a bunch of "rednecks and their annoying duck calls" this down to earth family demonstrates, more now then ever, how important family is. How family comes first. Phil was not preaching hate, and GQ should have known what they were getting into asking a very religious southern older gentleman his beliefs on that.

Today it is hard to be a Christian when the morals are not changing with the more liberal approach of today's culture. But that doesn't mean one should be reprimanded for his actions.

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Laura and Sarah said...

I really like this post - as one half of a same-sex couple, but also as someone who grew up in religious and conservative Idaho, I've experienced many different types of Christians - from the inclusive and inspiring, to the alienating and ignorant (like this Duck Dynasty guy).

The magazine really shouldn't have asked him the question on homosexuality - if only because, unless they are famous for pro or anti -lgbt activism, or indeed are gay, it's not relevant to his celebrity. GQ obviously wanted a controversy, and knew that a cartoon-ish older Southern redneck type could get them there. Shame on them, but also, why is this even a controversy? His views simply are not a surprise, and no loss to us knowing we don't have an offensive reality show star on our side.

This is getting a little rambly, but really what I'm trying to say is that I appreciate your call for more Christians to be loving and inclusive. We may not all agree on everything, but that's no reason for us not to get to know and understand each other a bit better.

Laura xo

Whitney Alison said...

I'm behind on my blog reading, but I so enjoyed this post. I too was getting tired of people talking about the 1st Amendment and religious freedom. (Which really is not what this is about...but I digress.) I love how you remind us that out faith is not about judgement, but love. When Christ was here he hung out with prostitutes and tax collectors. Not the priests. I think if he were here now, a lot of people would be surprised about who he spent his time with. Phil has a right to believe what he wants, and say what he wants, but other people have to right to be offended and his employer has the right to say that his beliefs don't align with theirs. I just think the whole thing is sad, because that isn't how I want my faith represented.

Nicole | Pharr Away said...

Well said, Jena! I love your perspective on this and I agree with it 100%!!!

Kate said...

Precisely!

Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles said...

A-flipping-men! Everything that I want to say has already been left in a comment. I am new to your blog and this post totally drew me in. I look forward to reading more of what you have to say in the new year! xo

Kelli Herrington said...

Thank you thank you thank you! I wish I could get this post all over the media couldn't have said it better.