hobbies

Tuesday, October 8, 2013

A few days ago, Grahm asked me if we have anything in common. 
My heart fell to my butt a little bit because I thought he was about to beg me for a camping trip. (News flash: pregnant women do not like sleeping pads or bugs or smelling like someone lit them on fire.) (Further news flash: I didn't like these things before I was pregnant either.)

It's true though, as far as things in common.
He's an engineer. His idea of a good time is ricky-dooing some robots and designing things that I'll never understand how to use. (I nod and smile a lot.) He also likes camping and volleyball. I'm an editor, who enjoys copious amounts of ice cream and DIY projects. My kind of hobby is spending Grahm's money at Hobby Lobby every Saturday. I like expensive hotels and avoiding sports that make me feel like the 5 footer that I am. (Don't ask why I played basketball for years.)

We like being together. We enjoy making each other laugh and working on our never-ending list of projects together. We both love running, but we all know how I feel about doing that with Grahm. But actual hobbies? I'm scratching my fanny over that one.

So the other day, I decided to do something about it.
In all my wifely glory, I headed for Academy and decided we were gonna start playing something together because collecting stamps and bird watching just seemed a little desperado. Tennis, it was! It was the perfect middle ground since neither of us have ever really played. I bought some rackets and balls and got a few interesting stares for the poor preggosaurus trying to make hay before the baby makes way. (What?)

When Grahm came home that night, I told him I was kidnapping him and that he'd need athletic clothes. I had looked up a few public courts, but both ended up being like epic quests for the holy grail. San Antonio apparently isn't a huge fan of tennis. Forty-five minutes later, we finally broke in to a jankity apartment complex. We played for about twenty minutes before it got too dark to see neon balls flying with perfect accuracy through the air.

He was rusty. I was incredibly terrible and slow (I blame the baby). But even if my thighs will never be as crushingly fierce as Serena Williams (probably a good thing) and even if Grahm will never be able to serve like that one famous bald guy, we still had a blast learning something new together. 

I don't think the recipe for a fun marriage is having everything in common, but I do think it's important to be intentional about spending time with each other. Tennis may not become "our thing" (Grahm doesn't like losing, hahaha). But really, it's not about the hobby. It's about the person you're making a racket (bad, bad pun) through life with and in the tennis game of life, our score was Love/Love. (Just ignore the fact that Love means Zero.)

22 comments:

Veronica Lee Burns said...

haha we try and play tennis together. We've even had a lesson. I enjoy it but I'm definitely not as good as Kevin...it's something we both want to work on.

Erin LFF said...

Such a good post with a good lesson behind it :) Jared and I recently joined a gym together and it's been nice to have common goals and a common interest... you know, other than watching football ;)

Pamela said...

haha so cute!! Hey, at least yall tried & had fun :)

Laurie @ The Rookie Wife said...

Aren't you guys just the cutest:) Glad you found some middle ground!

Mikell Gordon said...

haha this is my favorite. Spencer is also an engineer and MY favorite thing to do is also spend money at Hobby Lobby. I think we would all get along great! Spencer worked at Academy for a while and INSISTED I learn to play tennis with him. HORRIBLE IDEA. I'd go in for the awesome serve Serena William's Style.. and hit the ball straight up in the air and over the fence. After trying that 5 times.. he was just like.. "can you just throw the ball to me to start the game??"

At least you looked really cute while you played!

Kalen said...

My boyfriend and I are the same way...he's very hands on and outdoorsy, and I enjoy wine on the couch after a long day. Just yesterday he was APPAULED my family never took me camping. I'm sorry, we enjoyed our Florida vacation home instead.

Glad to know two opposites can make it :) And funny enough, he recently told me he wanted me to take up tennis (but just to wear the skirt).

Lauren said...

Love this and the message behind it. Being intentional with time spent is HARD for us right now (and has been since having Camden) but it's something we're working on every day.

P.S. I would have paid big money to see two playing tennis :)

Emily said...

I get asked on a monthly basis if I want to go camping. pshh. I always correct Freddie with a "it's called glamping, honey."

Noelle said...

I love this. My husband plays every sport and is somehow good at it- I blame it on him being a college athlete and having good genes (I can only hope our son gets these genes instead of my lack of athletic genes)! But you have given me a hope that we can find something in common to do together! Thanks! :)

Meghan Kraft said...

What a fun time for you two! Sounds like a little adventure that definitely made you laugh :)

Becky said...

What a good idea!! Peter and I tried to play tennis together once in college and he got frustrated with how inaccurate I was haha he was doing a lot of running. Our common ground now is listening to music together. Our favorite band is the Red Hot Chili Peppers and we got to see them for our first time together!!

Rachel said...

Doing fun things together is very important and, well, FUN! (duh) We are also pretty different in our likes but we find a couple activities that we're both pretty crazy about to enjoy!

Jamie K. said...

Yall are cute! I keep trying to bring new things into our marriage as well :) Good for yall!

Meg Cady said...

Yall are cute! (If you are looking for a non janky place to play again check out the Thousand Oaks area.. I vaguely remember there being some tennis courts I might have kissed a boy on in middle school... and by vaguely I mean I totally did. )

Venassa said...

You make a very good point! Fiance and I do have a hobby or two that we share, but we really need to get out and DO something. I wish he was up for going to the gym.

Katie Did What said...

You are freaking adorable. And I loooove tennis! My family would always go play together growing up :) Seriously love, but of course my dad is like pro status as are my two brothers, and then there's me. :/

xo

Allison said...

You are so darn clever. I love this post and all it's wittiness. :)

The Lady Okie said...

that one famous bald guy. i totally know who you're talking about! you're looking at a lifelong tennis player. since the ripe age of 6! boom. i love tennis. good choice :)

Amanda* said...

I CAN NOT play tennis. More power to YOU!!!

Megan D said...

Love this! It's so true: "it's about spending time with..." them. Great reminder :)

Molly said...

my thoughts exactly when I said "I'm going to play soccer with ya, Jude!" kind of a if you can't beat them, join them mentality.

Elle Vee said...

Sounds perfect!

Would have loved to see a pregnant lady playing tennis :)