for Blayne

Friday, April 5, 2013

I've been away from Grahm Cracker for a whopping four days, and I'm already having withdrawals. I'm like a junkie looking for her dealer. (Yes, I did just compare my husband to an addiction to cocaine.)

Point is, I miss him.
This week has made me realize just how easy my little life is. Every once in a blue moon, Grahm or I have to go away on a business. But every other night, we're together in our beautiful home. When you think about it, five or six days really is nothing (not that I hold to that claim when I'm on a diet).

I don't know how women all over the world go for month after agonizing month without the men in their lives.

The last few days have made think of my one of my beautiful best friends who lives in Germany right now. Two years ago, she had her first child alone in a German hospital. She didn't know anyone. She didn't speak the language. And her husband had just been deployed. It was a few months before Steven returned and met his baby girl.

I'm in awe of Blayne's strength and optimism and fearlessness. She truly is an inspiration. And I know there are women all over our country who are doing the same brave thing she has to do every day as part of the military world.

To the woman who curls up alone in bed and wishes her sweet man was there to snuggle with, to the women who make dinner for one every night, to all the gals who hear strange noises and don't have their burly men to go check it out, to the women who eat an entire gallon of ice cream wishing their men were home to blame it on, to the girl who has to carry in the groceries and take out the trash because her husband isn't home to help her, to the women who raise and discipline their children on their own, to the girls who are forced to love from afar, to the women who simply want to be with the one they love most . . .

Thank you. Thank for being braver and stronger than I ever could.

37 comments:

Erin said...

Aww- this post touched my heart today. You are SO SO right, that our lives are pretty darn easy when you think about it. I've got some friends in the military too and I always have so much respect for the wives that "do it all" like you said. Blayne's fam is gorgeous :)

wHiT | Black Little Button blog said...

Awe! I love this post! I can't imagine being her position. Thanks for sharing this story.
-wHiT

Kalen said...

Amen!

lori said...

oh my goodness, i couldn't imagine my husband not being there... my brother is in the military and its a huge sacrifice! so thankful for them and all that they do!

julia rose. said...

It always breaks my heart to think of the women that are alone more times than not as wives because their husbands are fighting for our country! Sending some prayers up for your sweet Blayne's family! She's one amazing woman it sounds like!

Karla said...

Yes! I could not agree more! Love this.... And you!!

put a bow on it [kaitlyn] said...

you're giving me the chills with this. Blayne sounds like the definition of a strong woman, praying for her sweet family!

Melissa Knott said...

Wow, Jena. Well said.

RitaMarie said...

Sweet post. Just lovely.

Kayla Peveler said...

She sounds SO strong, and so are so many women AND men throughout the world! I can't even imagine. Thanks for writing this you inspirational thing you ;) love it!

Tamara said...

I love this post! Well written and so true.

Ashley from The Kitchen-Sink Chronicles said...

Military wifes are strong women! I'm ever grateful to the sacrafices they make!

Becky said...

Wow she sounds so strong - having a baby in a foreign country all alone?! Wow!! My roommate and I were actually just watching military people surprise their families videos on youtube last night, we were crying like babies! I'm very grateful for their sacrifices!

Jenna Riley said...

I've always admired military wives for their strength and for their admiration for their husbands. Almost every single one I've come across are the most positive people and wonderful mothers. Great post, mama! <3

Love and Such said...

HOLY COOWWWWWW....
I seriously cannot imagine being in her situation in the hospital alone..
SHE is Brave AND HE IS BRAVE! What a cute couple!!

Mariah Rickard said...

Aw! I just totally teared up reading this! I cannot be as strong as those girls! I have so much respect for the women who can love a man who they rarely see and from a far! I admire them so much, and am so thankful to their husbands protecting us.

Amy said...

i love this post! Props to blayne and all of the other military wives & husbands who hold the fort down when their love is serving to protect our country and freedom!
Thanks for posting this Jena!

Katie Did What said...

This is so sweet. And really, you never know how strong you can be until you are forced to be strong. So. I wouldn't say "I never could" because I know you have strength inside of you, too, girl. <3

xo

lo @ crazy ever after said...

This was so perfectly said. Good work, friend.

Jenna said...

Oh goodness, this just made me tear up! When my husband and I got married he received a no notice deployment was leaving for Afghanistan two weeks after our wedding. It was the most horrible feeling I could imagine and I worried every waking moment that he was deployed. Every time the news came on and reported a blast or strike I lost it. That's so sweet of you to think of them and recognize your very brave friend. Loved this post, girly! Have a wonderful weekend!

xo, Jenna

Amy - Louise said...

Thank you so much for this, it just touched my heart and brought tears to my eyes. I was once one of those wives. I brought my daughter up pretty much on my own especially during the first two years of her life when he was serving in Iraq. Military wives are the strongest women I know. Packing up their lives in boxes at short notice, moving away from friends and family to a base where you may be left alone straight away. The return of your man from deployment is the best day ever, but my heart goes out to those whose men don't return, even when they come home physically unhurt and the worry and loneliness continues. our servicemen are brave beyond belief, we cannot imagine what it is like when they are overseas. I am so grateful for protecting us all and gor everything they give up, but I truly believe that military wives are the backbone of our forces. Thoughts, prayers and admiration for your friend and her husband :) x

Lauren said...

Amen! Even though I am a single gal, I give it to these ladies! They deserve all the good thoughts and praise that we can give them!

Angie said...

Amen! I was thinking about this same thing the other day. Those women are just as much hero's as their husbands. Not only do the men sacrifice but the whole family does. God Bless them all for what they do

Maxine said...

It's hard!! It's so hard! Especially the first few weeks they're gone. I couldn't imagine having a baby during that time period -- ohmygosh -- that's a brave woman. But the homecoming is worth waiting for. It's what keeps us going every day. :-)

Andrea @ Love is... said...

Amazing. Simply amazing. I couldn't agree more.

saywhatyouwant said...

Came across this because friend shared this in the comments of a FB post I was tagged in. You are so sweet to think of Blayne and her family while they are serving the US. I loved your post!
One thing (as a USMC wife) I would like to contribute as an addendum to your post, based on the comments here though, is that we are NOT alone. SO NOT ALONE. We have God to rely on (and trust me, we talk to Him A LOT!). On top of that, most military spouses near an installation have AMAZING support systems in the other wives. I have a FANTASTIC group of friends and we are there for each other for everything: birthdays, celebrations, losses, grocery shopping, fixing cars/houses/etc, baby sitting, dog sitting, cheers, tears, and fears, the ups, the downs... everything. Although Blayne's husband was unable to be there for the birth of their baby, I am sure she was surrounded by other wives because I know how awesome these ladies truly are.

Thanks again for taking time out of your day and some space on your blog to think of us. It is tough, to be sure, but we love every minute of it and we wouldn't trade it for anything! Semper Fi!

Mary Rachel Fenrick said...

I have so much respect for Blayne and other army wives, too. I don't think I could ever do it.

Tara said...

Oh girl does this post hit home! When S has to go away for business I cringe!!! I haaaate it! I feel for those whose husbands are away much longer than I have to put up with , prayers go out to that strong woman.

Oh and that trash thing - hate that with a passion. I never even think about it (sad I know) until S is away and then I half to face that trash..literally!

Kaity said...

My husband and I were separated the past few days and it's pathetic how much I missed him. I couldn't agree with you more.

Faith Ann said...

Thank you for such a sweet post to all the military wives. We cringe to hear people complaining about not seeing their spouses for a couple days, because we do go months without. However, we know this is our lifestyle and we have to deal with it. Its been a long 3 months since the last time I saw my husband and I have another 3 or 4 (or 5) to get through. We got married this past september and I've luckily gotten to be with him almost two months since then. He's in South Korea right now and I'd appreciate the extra prayers for him. I love all your posts, but this may have been my favorite. :)

Erin @ Axells Kitchen said...

This was such a sweet post, love it!! I would have loved to be able to read that when my husband was deployed!! It's definitely a tough thing to go through!

Ashley Barnhill said...

This is such a sweet post and an awesome reminder how others are showing so much strength every day.

Nicole said...

So often we forget about the spouses and significant others who are left alone during deployments. Thank you for sharing.

Caravan Sonnet said...

I came across your blog and I have to tell you how much this post truly touched my heart and was such an encouragement! Thank you so much for speaking to us "single" gals and your heartfelt encouragement. SO thankful to have found this post and to be your newest follower!
:) Rebecca
www.caravansonnet.com

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Susannah said...

Oh sweety, I'm so sorry your hubby's away! That's so hard! I hate it when my man's gone. Being a "single wife" is never fun.

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