that time I bawled to my realtor

Thursday, October 25, 2012

Little did I know, this post was serious foreshadowing for my own life. We didn't want to say anything until it was finalized, but this week Grahm and I have been in the middle of negotiations for a house we super fell in love with. I'm talking hook, line, sinker, and Pottery Barn plans. Isn't it beautiful?

The seller accepted our offer on Monday, so all that needed to be done was an inspection. Grahm and I were beyond excited, but we specifically prayed that if this wasn't God's will for us that He would make it perfectly clear.

Grahm is out of town. So when I got a phone call last night from our realtor, I knew something was wrong... Turns out, our dream home has foundation problems. $15,000 worth of foundation problems to be exact. This blonde bimbo doesn't know a lot, but I do know you want your house to stay in one place.

"You...you... mean it's... over?" 
I was/am devastated. Pretty sure I've cried harder for this home than when I dumped my first boyfriend of one million years. My poor realtor. Probably never had a lady go all sob-fest 2012 on him.

God answered our prayer, just not in the way we had hoped. We are trusting Him to bring us to an even better house, one that isn't going to sink, or move, or run away. And while I am grateful He saved us from making a terrible purchase, I'm still a little heart-broken. Maybe that's silly, but that's how I feel.

"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the LordFor as the heavens are higher than the earth,     so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts."

51 comments:

Kaity said...

That house looks amazing, but I know from experience God's plans are always better than the ones I have had for myself. I have complete faith you two will find your perfect home :)

Nourish said...

Love your optimism and faith! Something great is planned for you both. : )

Kate said...

No negotiations with seller after this finding?!?

Rachel said...

Awww, sweet girl. That just breaks my heart for y'all--but just remember, as amazing as that how was...think how incredible the house GOD has for you will be! It's going to be better than you could've ever imagined :) and I can't wait to see it!!!

Meagan Piroutek said...

Gotta trust His plan! There is nothing wrong with crying it out but stay positive. That's the inspections are so thorough, think of all the mess you'd have if they hadn't found the problems. Once you find THE house all of this will be completely worth it!

Kristen said...

Just have faith love and trust that he has a plan for you bigger than we can ever imagine! When the time is right, everything will work out! And it is ok to get upset. I sometimes cry about some silly things, but it helps :) Have a wonderful day!
-Kristen@fewofmyfavoritethings

lo @ crazy ever after said...

I know you're capable of looking at the big picture. This is merely a bump in the road. This place will look like a shack compared to what you're eventually going to be living in. Deep breaths. Keep saying your prayers and your dream house will come. Now. Go team! And play ball. ;)

Ashley @ ThisUnscriptedLife said...

I used to work for a real estate agent. Trust me...people cry all the time during the process. Whether you're buying or selling it's stressful! Don't get too discouraged. If this house wasn't meant to be then that just means something better is out there waiting for you =)

Kerrie said...

Been there! I couldn't believe how I cried over a home I wanted to badly that fell thru as well. Looking back, (of course!) I see what God was doing. But in the midst of it, it is so frustrating!

Married...with a Pup said...

I hate it when things don't work our the way we plan. But you have to remember that everything happens for a reason and you'll find an even better house!! Definitely still a bummer though.

Jordan said...

Beautiful house and beautiful ending to this post. I am sure He will bring you to the perfect place to call your home. Just stay patient and be thankful you didn't have to suffer through the $15,000 of problems!

Nicole said...

You WILL find the one! I'm just glad you recognize that it's God's plan, not yours :) If He wanted it to be that one, he would have made it that one. Keep you head up, it'll come!

Courtney Carlton said...

The Lord is SO faithful in showing us that His plan is far better than ours, even when it's hard for us to see at first... He will SURELY take care of you and Grahm. I'm excited for y'alls continued house hunt :) He will show you the perfect one!

Leslie @ Body Won't Break said...

Talking from first hand experience, foundation problems are no fun. We had about $20,000 of work that should have been done on our old house. We were able to do a little work ourselves to make it secure and sell it to someone who didn't mind creaking floors or cracks in the walls. It is worth it to wait and find the perfect house. I know time is of the essence and a concern but it will work out. Promise! Best of luck on the continued house search!!!

Michelle said...

Awww I'm sure you'll find something great soon!

Jenny Strickland said...

Believe me foundation problems are not fun at all!!! Please take my word for it!!!

God will show y'all the house that will be y'alls HOME! And when He does you will know then that it was all His work!!!

Laurie @ babyscardina.blogspot.com said...

House hunting can be SUCH a bummer, it took us forever to find the perfect house for us. Which probably isn't considered the perfect house for others, hubby is a contractor and decided he wanted to buy a fixer upper -in cash- and fix it up on his own. It's been a long rough road and 1 year later we are just finishing up. It's worth it though, we don't get to build a BRAND NEW HOUSE but I still get to make sure everything is *mine* and the way I want it to be. We searched for 4 whole years before the perfect one came along. You'll find the right house, and hopefully your forever home soon. DON'T GIVE UP!! :)

Jana said...

I'm sorry! That is a super huge bummer. But you are right in having faith that the Lord has a better plan for you. Can't wait for Him to show you what that is! :)

Crissy@ABerrySweetLife said...

I know how you feel! House hunting is so emotional, you have your heart set on one, but then God closes the door. I know you know this already, but that just means He has a better one out there for you!

Funny story: my heart was so set on a house that we didn't get, that when my hubby and I started looking at houses again, I didn't go with him. I just looked at pictures online. When he found "the house," I didn't see it in person until after we had closed on it because I didn't want to have to go through all those emotions again. Isn't that crazy? I am living in a house that I didn't see until after we bought it! I still can't believe I did that! Haha!

slayer said...

You are NOT alone! I went through a very similar issue with the most beautifully restored home built in the early early 1900's and it ended up having foundation problems, root damage, and termite damage. So although aesthetically pleasing, it was a giant turd hole. And it will never end. We just looked at a job in New Hampshire and I found my DREAM home, like "I will never go unsatisfied with a house again" dream home. Turns out we aren't taking the job... BOOOOOO! You'll find the right one, that is structurally sound.

Shannon Page said...

Oh nooo!! Well it just wasn't meant to be, girl:( I'm so sorry to hear that though!!

Chelsea said...

Hope everything works out. You poor thing!

P!nky said...

Sending you good vibes!!!! God is good and will bring you something AMAZING!

xoxo

Sarah :: Your Plucky Picaroon said...

It will all work out! :)
And I'm certain you are not the first nor the last lady to cry in the realtor's Wheaties.

xo
Sarah :: Your Plucky Picaroon

Andrea @ Love is... said...

Aw, bummer! But I agree, God want's you somewhere else. Keeping my fingers crossed that you find the perfect home for you two!

Jeans and a Teacup said...

Aww...sorry to hear about the house! My husband and I haven't started looking at houses yet but I can imagine it can be really frustrating at times. But God has something better for you!
~Jessica
http://jeansandateacup.blogspot.com/

Stephen Carradini said...

This one time, I lived in a house that had a broken foundation. We called "Six Flags Corporate Offices," because the floor resembled a roller coaster pattern and there were ceiling tiles for the ceiling. It was simultaneously the best and worst living experience ever. When I went back to visit it a year later, they had demolished it and built condos.

A Nerd and A Free Spirit said...

So, what is the seller going to do? Now that they know, they have to disclose it to any future buyer.... so they aren't fixing it? I would think they would be required to fix it and then you could still buy it. What's the "rest of the story"?

All that aside, I am so sorry! That is the most gut wrenching time. Our current house had an offer on it with someone else and I felt like they were getting MY HOUSE. and then their contract fell through and we got it. Up until then it was all I thought about 24/7. I was loony bin.

I think you prayed the right thing, though, and it just means god has something somehow even better for you guys.

Sorry, friend!

~Kathryn

Steph said...

Man, I haven't wanted to say anything about mine and my husband's home prospects since I don't want to jinx anything, but we are currently in negotiations with a house that has a roof problem. Waiting today to hear if we can still close on it without the seller backing out. The home buying process is stressful but you will find one! I've had my heart broken 5 times now (I know, brutal right?) but what is meant to be will be!

Romance In A Glance said...

Aw good luck with finding something new. It just wasn't meant to be, as much as you had hoped it was. There will be something else :)

LeeLu Creations said...

Man, that sucks! She sure is a beauty! Someone might have already said this but I was too lazy to read through 30 comments, lol, but can't you negotiate the price down $15K or have the seller fix the problems? I think you can! Good luck.

callie said...

things happen for a reason.. i bet you find an even better home soon.. and then you will look back and say.. thank u sweet jesus!!

Courtney Cakes said...

I am about to start house shopping... This just reminded me to not get "tooooo" attached to a house until all is said and done. At least never admit my love for the house out loud.

Victoria said...

Sorry, Jena =( Everything works out in the end =) <3

Lauren said...

Ah, so difficult to realise that God has a bigger plan when the plan in front of you is/was looking pretty perfect. He does have a better house in mind though! He's faithful xx

Pam Mower said...

So sorry to hear that Jenna, but I believe the house you both buy will be even prettier, more affordable, and in better condition. God only closes doors to open even bigger and better ones! I hope you and your hubby find a beautiful house that you both love soon! I can't wait to see pics of it :)

Elle said...

So sorry it wasn't the one. Soon you'll find "The One" (it really is a lot like dating...) and be so glad that this one fell through, but until then tears and tubs of ice cream are definitely warranted.

p.s. i've totally snatched your button and put it up :)

CoastWithMe said...

Okay. I'm addicted to your posts. Like usually people lose me after the first sentence. I have a very short attention span. But you my dear keep me engaged. Love your writing style. Love reading your posts. And I know in my heart of hearts that you will find the right place. I promise. Pinky promise. Sorry for the foundation issues. But thank god for inspections because last thing you want is a $15,000 expense after you move in! Thank you for taking me along your ride:)!

Kelley Gilster said...

that house is sure adorable...but God has something perfect for you that he chose specifically!! Prayers to you guys :)

Renee said...

Wow, that house looks amazing!! Imagine what the perfect house for yas is gunna be like if that wasn't it!!! Can't wait for you guys to find it!!

Lauren said...

oh girl, I'm so sorry! God's timing & ways certainly don't necessarily always match up with ours...but imagine the heartache he's saving you so you didn't have to deal with foundation problems on your own!

Jamie said...

Ooh. What a bummer. You're lucky you didn't get stuck with a lemon, but still...

Ashley said...

Oh no. So devastating when your dream house is no longer...but better things are in your future!!!

Tamara said...

That stinks about the house but at least you found out now and not a few months down the road...closed door, open window all that stuff. Fingers crossed & prayers barreling your way that you find something better soon!

Love and Such said...

AWEEEE Nooo!!
Dang it.
I'm so bummed for you. and excited it didn't work out at the same time.
I love saying those types of prayers and getting an answer. Even if it's NOT the answer I hoped for.

Something awesome will come along.
I'm excited to see what it is :)

have a good weekend- dont' be too down!

xoxo!
-Mikell

Ashlyn said...

Aw I'm sorry! I can imagine that was a huge let-down. God definitely has something better in store, don't you worry!

Allison said...

You two are so smart to put all things into God's hands and trust Him. Thankfully he cares about what we care about...even something like house hunting! Good luck deary, I hope you find your dream home soon!

Morgan Nicole Ilg said...

oh no!! well it's a good thing that God answered your prayer...even though it wasn't the way you wanted it to be answered. I love that house, but I do believe that God has something better for you two!

have a wonderful day Jena. I am praying for you!

~Morgan

shortsleevedpants.com

Katie said...

I'm sorry :( but god is just planning a much better house for you guys, it will all fall into place :)

Amy said...

::hugs::
::TRIPLE HUGS::
I'm so sorry. :(
There are really no words to take the sting out of the situation, other than the cliche "there will be a better home"...but that doesn't always feel like the case within the moment.

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