Stroll into each other's hearts

Thursday, May 31, 2012

When I was young, my parents had this routine. After dinner they would make us do the dishes (basically the whole reason for having kids). Then they would go on a walk together. I used to think it was really weird. They're just... walking? Around the block? How embarrassing.

I didn't give it too much thought. I was too busy trying to con my little brother and sister into doing the brunt of the dish scrubbing (older siblings for the win).

Last night after failed dinner #547 (that's why you always keep a frozen pizza in the fridge, kids), Grahm and I decided to go on a walk. (Yes. You do, in fact, turn into your parents.) Despite the busy street our apartment is on and the total lack of scenery (wild weeds do not count), we really enjoyed it. It was nice to spend time together.

Don't get me wrong, we spend a heck of a lot of time together. I'm essentially attached to his bony little hip. We do everything from forcing each other out of bed at 7:30 every morning, frantically packing our lunches, texting during working hours (shhhh!), eating dinner (if it turns out), talking about our days, etc. etc. We love being together (hence why decided to get married). We also know approximately four people in the city of San Antonio, so we don't hang out with other people a whole lot.

I think there's a difference between always being together and actually spending time with your spouse. Sure, we can both veg out on the sofa and watch reruns of How I Met Your Mother together. Some nights, I love doing this. Proximity, however, doesn't always mean closeness. We may be pounding the same gallon of ice cream, but that doesn't really mean much. Taking walks is nice because we get our couch-potato selves out of the apartment, and we get to really talk to each other about life (sap, sap, sap).

I realize now why mom and dad always went on those walks. They weren't shirking their responsibilities of cleaning the kitchen (like the sibs and I thought), they were avoiding us. Not in the terrible-parent kind of way, but in the I-need-to-spend-time-with-my-best-friend kind. I think we can all stand to make a little bit more time for the ones we loved most; and our buns could probably use the extra steps. 

24 comments:

Shauna said...

My brother and I used to go on walks with my granny every single day on vacation! I always loved it and try to remember to go on walks with my husband...it very rarely happens though! Thanks for the inspiration to try more often!

Lauren said...

This is cute and I totally agree. My parents are just like that. Nights at the cottage were spent with my sister and I arguing over who was going to do dishes while my parents headed down to sit at the lake together. My husband and I are totally turning into "dorks" like them. But you're right. Sitting on the same couch together doesn't mean you're really hanging out. :)

Kristen Danielle said...

I grew up in an unconventional household... had a single working Mom and multiple step-dads (Not all at once, lol!), so I never got to first hand witnes what you're talking about. But, my boyfriend's parents go on walks every day together and I think it is the sweetest thing. You make a good point about just because you're together doesn't mean you're actually spending good, quality time with one another. My boyfriend & I have been going on runs lately, and we'll stop every mile or so and walk for a little and talk. It's the best time, I swear!

Cute picture of you guys! :)

Have a great weekend, girlie.

xoxo
Kristen

Emily said...

Thank you for this post! I totally agree...my hubby and I try to eat dinner together most nights of the week, and we almost always have one "date night" each week. It's so important to have that time just the two of you to catch up on life. I'm glad that we're getting into this habit before we have kids too.

And, yes, you definitely do turn into your parents...and it's not a bad thing either. :)

Holly said...

I love this idea and I love that you took time out of your day to do that!! I am keeping this thought in my mind for the future :) And I hope you find more time to walk with your hubby!

brittany kuhn said...

#1 reason people have kids...so they don't have to do the dishes! totally agree. My chore since I have been little has been dishes and my brother trash. Doing the dishes is something I dread every day and one of the many reasons that start my Mom and I's arguments! I was just telling myself last night how I cannot wait to get my own place so I do whatever I want with the dishes. Glad I am not the only one who though this and I am totally adding this to my list of traditions I want to start when I get my own lil family (:

Katie said...

that is one of my favorite things about summer - going on walks after dinner!! it is a difference of just being together and intentional being together!

Alana Christine said...

Aww this is precious! Maybe someday I'll have that!

Mary Rachel said...

I like this post. :-). Walks with the hubby are great!

katie michelle said...

love this entire post. so true, so good, so not something you think about when you're 10 years old.

Lauren said...

This is so cute! :) I love going on walks with my hubby!

Nicole - Craft My Soul said...

Walks are truly nice with your other half. Sometimes when I'm in a bad mood Carlos asks me to go for a walk with him. I feel so much better after!

Allison said...

This is so sweet. Your parents are so smart!!! You are right about the time you spend with your spouse. You can sit next to almost anyone and watch tv, but actual quality time is what is important! Thanks for sharing!!

Kaity said...

This is something I've come to learn and been thinking about a lot lately. Because of our busy lives and work schedules, hubby-to-be and I don't spend much quality time together OUTSIDE of our apartment. I miss it!

Katie said...

Awe, that's so sweet! :) I will definitely be ditching dishes for a walk with my love! :)

Steph said...

I love this post. Going on walks is one of my favorite things. I've always loved walks for some reason...just to get out in the fresh air and see what you can find! Now if only I could get Corey to enjoy going on walks... I think I'm going to need to get a doggy to help me with this!

L-Kat said...

:) Such a good post. People need to take time to really connect and talk to the people they love: be it a significant other, a best friend, a parent, a sibling... Thanks for the reminder!

Lauren said...

love this! having Bogey, our furry dog son, has forced us to go on walks & it's one of my favorite parts of the day. So thankful for the quiet time we have together!

Sara said...

This is such a precious post. You and the hubs are adorable, and I'm so glad you two find time to reeeally spend together. Guess our parents really know everything after all. ;)

xo

Jessica said...

I need to get my hubby back out with me! I used to be able to get him to walk the dogs with me, but work just saps his energy- or both of ours! Walks together are such great, easy ways to spend time with each other though. -Jessica

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Kathy B. said...

Such a beautiful post as always my dear! I love you and Grahm, I can only hope that some day I will find a man that brings into my life that funky, perfect thing that you two have going on! Relationship envy, anyone?!

Keep on strollin', my beauty! Xx

Second Hand Rose said...

I was just like you when I was a kid and just couldn't understand people's fascination for going for a walk. But it is a great way to spend time together and have a little chinwag! You too are super cute! XxxX http://thesecondhandrose.blogspot.co.uk

Michelle said...

Just found you (thanks for the comment!) and I LOVE this post! Maybe it's because my Husband and I take many a good after-dinner-walks (even after 18 years of talking/texting/emailing each other multiple times during the day). Whether we walk and talk or just walk together in silence, it's one of my favorite things to do together! I'm a new follower ~ looking forward to reading some more! ;)

Kim Matheson said...

"Proximity, however, doesn't always mean closeness."

So incredibly, amazingly true.

I love this post. Thank you for writing it. So much! :)